When fear feels bigger than my faith. What should we do next? Friends, I can tell you that at times in my life I have experienced this feeling. It can be debilitating and scary to even see the next steps in front of you. But I want to press in and tell you to keep going. We can't let the fear of the unknown stop us from living a life of real purpose and meaning. It's so easy to stay comfortable. I love being comfortable, don't you?
I'm pretty sure that is why the Lord spoke to Scott first about moving. I was way too comfortable to make any real changes.
Not every detail and plan worked out the way we initially thought however, we made it! We now live in Wilmington NC. and have a interior design studio that is just getting started. As we start this new chapter, we know this is exactly where we need to be. We have watched God open doors, close doors, and prepare a path for us that is clear. Our calling is bigger than our fears. Do we still have fear? Of course, but our obedience is bigger.
My point is that we have to learn not to operate under a spirit of fear. Fear will cause irrational thoughts and have us acting from a place of chaos. Instead we can have peace even in the unknown. Putting our trust in the one who has already declared victory.
I hope these verses below will help you live a more faithful and fearless life.
2 Timothy 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. 9. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me--put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.
How do you find joy each day? I think we mistake happiness for joy but they have two very different definitions.
Happiness is a feeling. It changes all the time and is mostly determined by our emotions. While joy is a deep sense of well being even when our circumstances are changing. People can steal your happiness but no one can steal your joy. Most of the time joy is accompanied peace.
As a mom, wife, and entrepreneur I can tell you that my happiness is very circumstantial. Sometimes I find everyday moments are slipping away. Our family just moved to another state to grow our business and live our dream of being closer to the beach. We are in a season of newness and living our dream. But you know what? Some days I haven't been happy. Some days are just plain tough and weird. Learning to navigate a new city, a new level in business, and set up a new home for our family has brought an unexpected flood of emotions that I really don't like.
So the question remains,
We are wired for more. More than what our circumstances can bring, more than money can buy, and MORE than any dream can fulfil. For me, faith is all I have to keep me grounded in joy. Knowing that Scott and I have unity in the decision we made for our family and we sought the Lord to guide us is the key. Leaning on our own understanding is grounds for failure, frustration, and giving up.
Proverbs 3 verses 5-6 Tell us exactly that
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not rely on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways know him,and he will direct your paths straight.
If all we do is focus on our own understanding and what is in front of us then we will miss out on living a life of joy. Life is too hard to bear and go it alone. The news is grim. The economy is grim. But, we don't have to be.
Finding joy each day takes time. It takes discipline and commitment to spending uninterrupted time in the word. Reading a devotional and then studying about it that day or week. Soon after, the discipline turns into a want and then a need. You will notice your perspective changes and before you know it your mind and heart are full of joy. You will react different to people including your spouse, kids, and colleagues. It's a pretty significant life change. What once had you down and miserable will no longer have that hold on you. We will still experience pain and heartache but the freedom that comes with living a life with joy is worth everything.
I challenge you to find joy each day. I challenge you to shift your perspective and focus on who is above you NOT what is in front of you. You are not alone, I am having to do the same thing right now. The giant is not as big as he looks, we have to keep going. Keep finding the Joy in each day.
The truth is that I'm still fighting through fear. I am typing this post on how to conquer fear in order to help some of you realize that you aren't alone.
Fear comes in so many different forms but to be completely vulnerable I'm sharing the four that affect me most often.
I read the book by Jennifer Allwood called "Fear is not the Boss of You". I barely made it through chapter 2 and it was like the Lord whacked me upside the head. She said, "Sometimes we can be fearful of success". WHAT??! That was so profound to me and I realized that has been one facet of what I have been experiencing over the last two years and even today.
Part of that answer pertains to my audience, AKA you! The fear of gaining more followers, being an influence and then failing to provide enough of what you need. What if my content isn't good enough or I run out of things to say? What if you find out I don't have it all figured out? I am not saying these are logical thoughts but nonetheless they are mine. Some days I feel like an imposter and don't feel I had what it took to be that kind of leader.
Feelings are real but here again they are circumstantial. How many times a day do your feelings change? We are not to lead with our feelings they are to be the caboose.
So I asked myself; How am I supposed to live a life of purpose when I allow those thoughts to creep in and take over?
The definitions of these words make me break into a cold sweat. They represent my biggest struggles. The doubt of not being good enough. The anxiety of getting it ALL perfect. Trepidation of what is expected. Lastly, the dread of just showing up and saying the right things at the right time to the right people in the right setting. For the love!
By now you are saying one of two things, "This woman thinks waaaayyyy too much" or, "That's exactly how I feel!" You would definitely be right about the first choice. #overthinker
Jesus take the wheel! Whatever fear you struggle with I promise we can conquer it by following the steps below. There is no magic pill or a quick answer but there is hope and hope does not disappoint. Let's do this!
Fear is logical: If you touch a hot iron, You will get burned. That's a healthy fear and not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about soul stealing, joy robbing, staying stuck in fear. This particular fear is not of Jesus.
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV
In the bible "Fear Not" is mentioned 365 times! That is the solid truth right there! One verse for every day of the year and an extra thrown in. Thank you Lord! The truth of fear is that it's from the enemy and he uses it in your most vulnerable area of life. Once you abide in the truth of what Christ says you will stand in victory over fear.
"And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
John 8:32 ESV
If you are sick and go to the Dr. He will prescribe you an antibiotic. The antibiotic will treat the root cause of your illness. If you only took ibuprofen that will only treat the symptoms. Once the ibuprofen wears off the pain will return. It's not until you treat the root cause will healing truly take place. It's so important that we take a deep dive into our own lives to discover where the fear comes from. Maybe you had a family member tell you that you weren't good enough. Or you play the comparison game and never feel good enough. Maybe you failed one too many times and you keep reliving that same feeling.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Ephesians 6:12 NKJV
Feelings are very real. Most of the time they dictate our reactions but, feelings lie. Feelings tell you that you don't want to get up and go to work. Conviction tells you that you have rent or a mortgage to pay. Feelings tell you that you are too tired to exercise today. Conviction tells you that you are taking care of the one body you have been given so get up. Feelings tell you that your home, hair, or clothes aren't good enough. Conviction tells you that God has equipped you with all you need to make a difference.
Preaching to the choir y'all! I have allowed my feelings to rule more times than I can count or want to admit. My desire in writing this post is to help you conquer fear in your own life.
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As I close out each year, one of my habits is to take some time and ponder the current year. This week I have been reflecting on 2020. I realized that even through a worldwide pandemic - my biggest dreams have come true! For me, it was opening my very own home decor boutique. If you have been following along this year you know we opened in Lynchburg, Virginia on March 6th. We had a successful opening weekend but the time the next weekend rolled around, COVID had stifled the world. Schools were closing, businesses were closing, and there were mandatory lockdowns happening across the U.S.
It was almost too awful to be true. I mean seriously! All this craziness the weekend after my doors opened?! All anyone could do was watch and pray that the world would open back up soon. Fast forward to today December 22, 2020, we are still in the midst of a pandemic, with nationwide shutdowns and strict mandates. Masks are the new fashion statement, you better NOT cough in public, and social distancing has become the most popular term in 2020. But enough about all the negative. Chances are you already know every single one of them. However, if you are just reading this in the year 2024, my hope is that the sickness is long gone and you will have forgotten most of the crap that went along with it.
Let me say right now how THANKFUL I am that I was able to open the shop when I did. Had we waited even just one more weekend, it could have been a disaster. That is where my mind has to rest and although I've had to shift and pivot along the way, this year has opened so many opportunities for me. As an entrepreneur, I know that change and growth go hand in hand in hand.
As I am reflecting on 2020, I am reminded of three important tips I have used to keep my mind healthy during all of this.
Looking at what I have not what I don't. Contentment is in the heart.
Focus on the good that is around me and building on that.
Being kind even when others aren't. Kindness goes a long way.
As I am reflecting on 2020 I realize more than anything that your mindset is key to where and how far you go. I'm a Jesus loving girl and because of His gentle reminders (see 1, 2, and 3) I've been able to thrive and push forward through the end of 2020.
This week my hope for you is to slow down and steady your heart. Look for the good and focus on what you have. We don't know what 2021 is going to bring, but we do have the opportunity to embrace it fully with a grateful heart.
Look back at some of my favorite renovations & designs from 2020!
Hi friends, many of you know that we have been renovating and decorating our two daughters’ shared bedroom for months. After endless hours of painting, cleaning, fluffing pillows, and organizing we are finally finished! Alas, they have a bedroom that reflects their personalities...for now! Last week I decided to have each of them create a painting. I had two large frames hanging around from a previous project and knew they were the right size. This was the last piece of the puzzle, the finish line was in sight! However, as I was putting one of the paintings in the frame the glass shattered into a million pieces. Some were large and others were shreds of glass barely visible. I was so disappointed. This was not part of my plan. I didn't have time to clean up the mess from the broken glass. Although, in order to move forward with my final plan, I had to pick up the pieces. So I grabbed the broom and started cleaning."REALLY", I let out with a sigh, a piece of glass had sliced open my finger. Quickly I grabbed a paper towel and waited for the bleeding to stop. I could feel my anxiety growing and the irritation welling up inside. Now my plans were pushed even further behind. "Lord, this was just a simple task!" Almost immediately I heard a whisper in my heart that changed the way I looked at the broken glass. He whispered so gently, "Sometimes we have to break into a million pieces before we can truly become a masterpiece." You see, without the glass, the paintings are FREE from any glare or distraction to the beauty inside the frame. Isn't that what life is like? Each of us has our own plans and dreams, then out of nowhere, we get a devastating blow that breaks us into a million pieces. We are left to pick up those pieces of a broken relationship, career, medical diagnosis, etc... We must first be broken before the best part of us is put back together. Each time it reveals a brighter truer version of ourselves. When we stop looking through the glass and start seeing the actual painting of our life we realize that true beauty is found within. It's not found in social media, politics, or money. We are to be a vibrant, bold, and bright light that can not be overlooked. The light that shines so bright makes everyone around us shine too. Do you feel broken today? It's time to discard those shattered pieces and allow the truth to set you FREE! He has a plan and purpose for you. We must learn from our brokenness and seek His will for our lives. Take the time to read God's word and cry out to Him today. He already knows your broken places and He is waiting to put the best of you back together. You are a masterpiece. Below are verses that have helped me pick up the broken pieces of my own life. I hope they will bring you encouragement today. You are loved, my friend. Find your light and let it shine.
"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." John 8:32 (NIV)"I can do all things through Him who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13 (NIV
XOXO, Katrina Morris
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